Lubing-Up the Swim Team

MOTILITY - limiting the movement of sperm cells, thus, when it does not reach the egg cell, they die.

One major concern of lubricant users, who wanted to conceive children.

Studies show that those people concerned with this are those undergoing infertility investigations. They are those who usually experiences sexual dysfunction, and needs vaginal lubrication.

But the same study also confirms that this would not prevent pregnancy. It does not have spermicidal that totally kills sperms. A strong sperm cell can still reach the egg cell an be unified to give life.

Therefore, its more of the male's sperm cells that really counts. My prescription would be (1) A healthy man with a healthy load can do the trick, (2) Doggystyle position making the distance travelled by his team shorter, and (3) stronger ejaculation for added momentum!!!!

So, make him practice!



Study was conducted on This is a big possibility, but still needs confirmation from studies

Concerned Condom User

Let me share to you an inquiry I have received yesterday:

"I'm a 21-year-old straight male and I've been sexually active with my girlfriend (my first and only partner) for about three years. My question is about condom breakage. We've never had a break. I think. After sex we almost always notice a thick white substance not totally unlike my come. She says it's from her but sometimes I'm concerned about breakage. Also, I get really freaked out whenever my girlfriend suddenly grimaces in pain while we're doing it. She just tells me that she's hurting. I can't seem to remember doing anything different or using anything different when we did it before. I just accidentally saw your blog and hoped that you have answers for this. Please quell my fears and tell me what action to take." CONCERNED ABOUT CONDOMS

In my experience, a broken condom tears quite significantly, sometimes disengaging and lodging in the vagina. (I don't mean to add to your agitation. It is usually very easy to get it out.)

Popular birth controls are condoms, xxxxxxxx and pills. I will just assume that you and your partner are only using condoms.

You have to understand this: women self-lubricate themselves, but every day is not the same for them. Its human biology. "Not getting wet" does not mean that women are not excited with their partner. There are just times women lacks these body fluids. Is your girlfriend taking pills? Pills have side effects... which contributes to vaginal dryness. The hurting would either come from the two reasons.

Its really nice to hear form a guy how concerned he is for his girlfriend. I suggest always bring with you some lubricant. You'll never know when she would be hurting again. At least you're prepared. I would suggest you use a water based lubricant... for this type of lubricant are latex or condom friendly.

St. Thomas Aquinas on DESIRE

"For St. Thomas, following the inspirations of his predecessor St. Augustine, human beings are primarily lovers. We "hit the ground, running," so to speak. To be a human being is to be a being on the move. You don't need to encourage a child to explore, to run endlessly in search of the next fascination. Indeed, a child who is said to lack all curiosity is one who needs some attention; something must be wrong. Like children, we are all first and foremost people of desire. All human actions begin from desire, from the impulse at the very core of our existence to reach..."

--http://muse.jhu.edu/cgi-bin/access.cgi?uri=/journals/logos/v005/5.4thompson.pdf&session=56889987

That is human nature. We dont have to abstain from exploring our desires! This would entail to personal imbalance. Whenever there is absence or lack of it, we as humans will not be complete. I think this is the very reason why some priests of some religion have wives and concubines.

That is nature. A natural law that we can't fight against. Its like trying to stay still in the midst of a hurricane... you will never win!

Lubricant 101

A lot of people are not aware that there are different kinds of lubricants. Let me share to you my expertise on the matter. Lubricants are differentiated by its base component. They are

SILICONE BASED lubricants contain various blends of silicone fluids. They are completely water-proof,making them ideal for underwater use; pools and hot tubs for example. Silicone-based lubes also retain their lubricating properties far better and much longer than water-based lubricants. Most silicone-based lubes are highly concentrated, so a little goes quite a long way. Silicone-based lubes can damage sexual toys that are made from from silicone polymers.

PETROLEUM BASED lubricants are made from petroleum jelly, mineral oil or straight petrolatum. Petroleum-based lubes destroy latex - practically on contact - and should therefore should never be used with latex condoms, diaphragms and cervical caps. These can also stain fabric and can be quite difficult difficult to remove from anything they come in contact with. These lubes also tend to irritate the vagina , and are therefore not really the best options for women that want to experience enjoyable vaginal penetration. Petroleum-based lubes are best left strictly for male masturbation and anal play.

OIL BASED lubricants typically contain natural products; vegetable oils, nut oils and/or butters. Oil-based lubes can also stain fabrics and be quite difficult to wash off. They are typically safe for use within the vagina, but oil-based lubes are destructive to latex. So, like petroleum-based lubricants, oil-based lubricants should never be used with latex condoms, diaphragms or cervical caps. Oil-based lubricants should also be confined to anal sex or male/female masturbation.

WATER BASED lubricants typically contain deionized water, glycerin, propylene glycol and other nontoxic preservatives. ste slightly sweet, and is therefore easily recognizable. Water-based lubricants usually do not stain, are safe for use with latex and all other barrier birth control methods, and rarely cause irritation. While most water-based lubes eventually dry out during extended sex, they are often quickly revived with a bit of water. Because of their versatility and effectiveness, water-based lubes are the form of lube recommended most often by doctors and sex therapists.

Choose whats best for your occasion!!!

I would recommend a water-based lubricant for the first timers. Try Bliss Personal Lubricant. It's BFAD approved, water-based, and even edible!